How To Unlock The Power Of Learning To Listen

Cody McLain
6 min readSep 8, 2020


We are going through challenging times. Over 200,000 Americans are predicted to die by the end of the year, and current employment is higher than the Great Depression. So the question I propose is how we can stay sane, not only for ourselves but for those around us?

When the work-week blends into the weekend, it’s firstly important to keep a routine. There is a saying that routine will set you free because it eliminates the willpower required to maintain a healthy lifestyle.

The most challenging part about these times is answering the question, How can we be there for ourselves and others? Have you ever found yourself advising somebody else when you felt you were the one who needed it the most?

The times are challenging, and nobody can predict what’s going to happen in the future. There is a lot of conversation centered around trying to find out what’s next. Can the schools open up? What’s the latest modeling that will predict case numbers? We’re trying to grab onto anything we can control with the desire for it to come true.

To remain fully present with ourselves is an act of courage because too many of us are numbing or ignoring the anxiety building up within ourselves. If you cannot support yourself, then how can you be expected to support your friends and family? Asking these questions is not bad, but it’s far too easy to find yourself ruminating on those thoughts without ever being aware that it’s affecting your mental health.

Whether you’re somebody who is in a difficult situation or having to listen to somebody else whois encountering a difficult situation, I ask how often you’ve had a conversation with somebody about your problems and felt better when they gave you advice?

One of the most important things we can do right now is to understand the difference between Listening to Fix, Listening to Win, and Listening to Learn.

Listening To Fix

On calls with friends who are sad, afraid, and in pain, I can feel the pain and desperation in my body instantly; my mind tries to find ways to help and suggest what they should do. Have you tried this meditation practice? Maybe you should take some 5-HTP, L-Theanine, or GABA to calm your nerves. How’s your diet…



Cody McLain

Founder of $12m SupportNinja, Author of From Foster Care to Millionaire book, Host of Podcast